For Mommy: How To Win Over Toddler/Prescooler Tantrums
This topic may sound very familiar to Moms out there, but let’s face it, its the typical behavior of our child that we don’t like and we need to find a solution that this problem to be under controlled. We need to be there for our kids, whether they like it or not, we need to put them under our wings to for them to control their “out of control” or “Tantrum” behavior.
I read this interesting tips from the Mom Sense magazine, an article page, written by two guys: they’re both fathers and psychologists named Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend. They say, these are Tips of Boundary Principles designed to help with Temper Tantrum Behavior to Preschoolers:
- Deal with the present in a loving manner. My toddler, George, when he gets tantrum, he just flops down to the floor like a rag doll whether it is hard or not. Sometimes I can’t catch him as I am a few distance away holding baby Vince or when I am cooking or doing something, and he screams so loud in a high pitch that leaves my ears deaf for a 30 seconds. The tip I read says, A parent should wait a moment until your child will hear what you are saying. Sometimes, I demand and say “Stop it right now!”, but he just screams on and on. They said, a child lying on the floor and screaming is not thinking clearly. So it is not best to yell or soothe your child unless he is hurt or not being manipulative. A parent should be caring and should say that we will wait for them finish their tantrum so we can tell them their choices.
- Remove what he loves. And there it goes, Mr. G threw his airplane toy away crashing to the floor. When he gets the Tantrum, he just throws anything that he loves, let it be his airplane, helicopter, books and other toys or favorite food which really make me so sensitive as it is not something that should be thrown away like that. What my husband and I usually do is to take them them away or keep them out of his sight or reach. The psychologist says that in their tip too. And I am glad we did something right. They said that if you do that, you are doing the job to let him see that tantrum won’t get him what he wants even though he is in his own world to demand that something. We may feel bad for him because we took that something that he really likes, but when he sees or knows that, he will have some awakening that in his reality, he can have his own choice in his future. And if its not working, we should not stop doing it and that we have to continue removing in sequence the things that he wants to help him see that we are his parents and we are not backing down.
(Other two tips in the next days…) How about you, do you have the same way of Boundary Principles when dealing with your Child’s Temper Tantrum?